Honestly, its tough; I mean I don;t have to deal with it, but from a standpoint of people that I know, being a boyfriend is a tough job. Now there are a variety of factors which play into making such a statement, but for the most part the statement is more true now than ever before, at least at this point in our lives.
With so many women who represent everything a man doesn't want, finding one who does is a nothing short of a miracle. With all the stereotypes that have become telling signs of our generation having the ability and opportunity to find one who doesn't exhibit these negative characteristics is a job all on its own. When you find one (if you're like me) you want to do everything right, (thanks to a past spent doing things not so admirably...) because you wouldn't have made this commitment thinking about straying from the path.
At this point everything is good. Your relationship rests in the hands of you and her, without the thoughts and ideas of others; however as relationships grow, the people around you begin to have more of a bearing on the relationship, which was once so...exclusive.
Other guys will do everything in their power to "take your girl," and this is the part where most guys make the mistake. They become insecure and start second guessing themselves. They fail to realize or forget the importance of the commitment that was made, and stop communicating about relevant topics for more question-asking and arguing. These guys must realize that she's with you for a reason and if she didn't want to be, she wouldn't waste her time. insecurities have led to the end of many promising relationships.
Along that same line, however do you really know the person you're dating? Sure, you've made this "commitment," but have you taken the time to get to know this person and her tendencies. One thing which is common sense to you, may be interpreted as something else to her. You may think everything is great, but she may be feeling to tied down. Communication is key to the survival of any relationship.
Other guys provide one thing - a difference. She's gotten used to the things you do and this other guy, who isn't any better than you, is something new, a change of pace. Spending all your time worried about her whereabouts and what she's doing gets pretty old. He, on the other hand, just happens to be "there," not necessarily waiting for you to mess up, but simply being a cognizant of whats going on. Can you be made at him for your mistakes? Not at all. Spontaneity is almost as important as communication. Where you lack in something, someone else will be the connoisseur of it aimed at entertaining this woman you've spent all this time with. Dare to be different, it works
In all actuality, few guys actually take someones girl, the truth is...she was already gone.
Sounds like a personal experience. If you stay on your toes, which YES, does take work, then neither party will have anything to worry about. You also have to both want the same thing...to BE in a relationship. As you get older, being single isn't all it's cracked up to be and when you find that person that you want to spend all your time with (instead of going to the club) and rarely get tired of then you will weigh your options and stray away from...well, straying. Although there are many women who represent what a man doesn't want (and vice versa), there are also many women who do. Don't make the proverbial mistake of imprisoning all women to a specific stereotype when you have only come across about 5% of the women you will meet in your lifetime. Open your eyes, and realize that outside of your world, wherever that may be, there is a place where women are beautiful, understanding, loving creatures who don't cheat just because someone else is "there."
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